“Nobody blew the whistle when it was farming. I just kept going.”
In this episode of Blether Together, host Sarah Stephen speaks with Bobby Stevenson, a former dairy farmer from South Ayrshire, about mental health, farming pressures, and life after stepping away from the family business.
Bobby shares his experience of building a farming enterprise, having a stroke at 49, and the gradual decline in his wellbeing that followed. He reflects on the culture of “just keeping going” in agriculture and how difficult it can be to recognise when things are becoming too much.
Drawing on his love of rugby, Bobby highlights the contrast between sport and farming: on the pitch, there’s always a whistle to stop play – but in farming, that moment doesn’t always come.
Bobby’s Story
Bobby spent many years developing the dairy farm his parents started, driven by a strong sense of responsibility and pride in the business. After experiencing a stroke, things began to shift.
Rather than a sudden change, Bobby describes a gradual downward spiral. Financial pressures, long working hours, and the demands of farming all played a part.
Eventually, he experienced a serious mental health breakdown.
With support from family, neighbours, and medical professionals, Bobby made the difficult decision to sell the farm – a turning point that allowed him to begin rebuilding his wellbeing.
Breaking the Stigma
A key message from Bobby is the importance of speaking openly about the challenges we face.
He reflects on how some people were able to support him during difficult times, while others found it harder to respond. These experiences have shaped his willingness to share his story.
Life Now
Bobby now lives in Dumfries & Galloway, with a different pace of life. He’s involved again with his local rugby club, spends time outdoors, and focuses on maintaining balance day to day.
Need Support?
If you’re concerned about yourself or someone else, talk to someone.
Contact your doctor, RSABI’s 24-hour helpline: 0808 123 4555, Breathing Space: 0800 838 587, or Samaritans (24-hours): 116 123.
